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How to Deal with the Fear of Being Alone in Life

  • Writer: Neha Kumari
    Neha Kumari
  • Aug 19
  • 3 min read

Fear to be left alone is one of those things nearly everyone faces once in his life. To some it is a low level anxiety humming in the background, and to others it is all consuming, like the never ending shadow chasing them along.


However, being single should not be confused with being lonely and in fact, as you start to learn how to enjoy your time alone it can prove one of the most liberating experiences of life.


Why are we Afraid of Alone?


Human beings are social in nature. Since our early years, we find comfort, security and love in the company of people. Therefore, when we even think of a future where perhaps we have to deal with things on our own it can fuel fear.


This fear is often brought about by:


  • Historical events of feeling rejected or abandoned.

  • Excessive reliance on the external world in order to be happy.

  • Self-esteem or self-identity.

  • The perception that it is lonely and thus uncared about or being a failure.

  • Knowing what you are fearful of is the initial step to get out of that fear.


Handling Methods to the Fear of Loneliness


1. Change Your Focal Point About Solitude


It is not about being lonely when you are on your own. Being alone may involve tranquility, inspiration and self-realization.


Stop considering it as a lack of company and instead imagine that it is time to yourself. Solitude was the power of many great writers, thinkers and artists.


2. Empower Your Relationship to Self


The healthiest one will be the relationship with yourself. Find a time to do what you actually like such as journaling, painting, cooking, or traveling alone. This feels less frightening the more you come to know and like yourself.


3. Develop a Support Network (However Do Not Rely on It Completely)


You have that natural desire of having people around but when you base your happiness too much on other people your mood can get invalidated when they are not around. Rather, create healthy and supportive relationships and learn to stand independently.


4. Confront your Negative Thinking


Whenever the fear sets in, just question yourself as to whether it is reality or your anxiety mouth speaking? 


The mind tends to think up worst case scenarios a lot. Substitute them with positive affirmations, such as, I am powerful enough to deal with life, or; I am completing by myself.


5. Be mindful and mediate


Mindfulness trains you to live in the present as opposed to fear-inducing the future. Loneliness is a painful experience and meditation has the ability to calm brain racing. It can even be just 10 minutes of your day it can make you feel more anchored and fearless.


6. Follow Dreams only Dreams


When you give your attention to meaningful work or hobbies, you stop focusing on what you don?t have but on what you are putting together. Purpose is a good way to make loneliness seem satisfying rather than unsatisfying.


7. You can supplement professional help in case you need it.


When the fear of being alone becomes so horrifying that it affects the daily lives, you can contact a therapist. Counseling offers resources in order to create emotional strength and insecurities to a greater depth.


Final Thoughts


It is not the fear to be alone that people have, but the fear not to see yourself. However when you know how to enjoy the company of yourself, then you will know that being alone is not a bad thing to avoid, it is a good thing to love.


You can be your sanctuary. And almost ironically, when you are no longer afraid of being alone, healthier and stronger relationships with other people come to you.


📅 By News Anek Digital Desk | August 19, 2025





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