The Disadvantages of Being an Extremely Good Person
- Neha Kumari
- Aug 24
- 3 min read
This may seem at first sight to be the greatest virtue of all: to be a good person. We like and adore kindness, compassion and selflessness, always trying to develop them.
What about when one is not good but extremely good?
Although this may be deemed as a dream, the truth is that exceptional goodness has its dark side that impact negatively on emotional, relationship, and personal development.
1. People Start To Take You For Granted
The second biggest drawback of extreme goodness is that people start taking your kind nature as a matter of course and begin to draw some comparison with your goodness.
Being helpful and generous becomes something which is no longer a gesture of love, but a duty. Instead of appreciating you, they just expect that you will be there at all the times and hence your worth in their sight gradually fades off.
2. Inbility and Difficulty to Say No
Really great people don t like limits. Their reason to say ‘no’ becomes harsh, so they embrace the word ‘yes, even when they are already tired, busy or do not feel well.
Such inability to say no can cause burnout, resentment and exploitation. Others in the long run become aware of this weak spot and continue asking their limits.
3. Emotional Strain and Stress
Being good always requires making an allocation of emotional energy The continuous need to look after others can use up the reserves in your mind. Instead of acting out your own feelings, you may ignore your needs, silent accept pain just so as not to hurt anybody.
This ultimately causes stress, anxiety and even depression since you end up putting the happiness of other people before yours.
4. Unbalanced Relationships
Good people are magnets to one sided relationships. Friends, colleagues, and even partners would want to stay because they are sure that you can give without emphasizing on what you are going to get back.
Unfortunately, such an imbalance does not allow establishing normal relations in which respect, effort, and care can move in both directions.
In its place of being valued, you can think of yourself as being exploited and undervalued.
5. The Risk of Manipulation
Very good individuals are usually an easy prey towards manipulation. As they do not want to upset or offend other people, they may endure toxic treatment or support unreasonable requests.
The manipulative individuals detects this kindness and takes advantage of it impressive the good person to feel guilty and helpless.
6. Ignoring Personal Development
When all your life is spent in helping others you forget about yourself. To reach your goals, dreams and ambitions, you put them on hold and help people reach theirs.
Such sacrifice may feel righteous on your part at some time but at some point, you could be left with the feeling that you have ignored your own path and bliss.
7. Internal Conflict
The reason is that extremely good people have to contend with an inner conflict. On the one hand, they desire to assist and take care of other people. They, on the other hand, desire recognition, respect and even reciprocity.
When this is not fulfilled, they become disheartened but hardly get to express the dissatisfaction due to the fear of being regarded as a selfish person.
8. Death of Personality
When you always compromise to adjust to the expectations of other people, you can lose yourself.
You begin to live no longer just for yourself, but for other people with whom you know that you need to form your personality around their acceptance.
In the long run, you might have lost touch with who you were outside of image of being a good person.
Final Thoughts
Being good is a beautiful trait to be but having extremes of anything may be counter product. There should be a balance in the conflict between kindness and self-respect.
Making a decision, saying no and establishing healthy boundaries as well as making yourself the priority sometimes does not make you a bad person, it makes you a balanced one.
Goodness is not about self-exhaustion on behalf of anyone; it is about being nice and at the same time taking into consideration your needs.
Keep in mind: you deserve the same love, care and respect you so freely give to others.
📅 By News Anek Digital Desk | August 24, 2025
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