Learning to Accept Loneliness Without Feeling Broken
- Neha Kumari
- Jul 15
- 3 min read
Loneliness. It is a term that is unpleasant facing most people.
We consume highlight reels, and everyone is doing their best life, and we question:
Why are people doing better than me?
What is so heavy about this?
But this is something that most of us do not hear enough:
Being lonely never makes you a broken person. It simply implies that you are a human being.
In this blog, we are going to discuss some ways of not allowing loneliness to define you but to accept it and even get peace in loneliness.
The Facts of Lonely in a Social Age
We are at the most so-called connected time in history when more people report feeling lonely than ever before.
You can live with followers, roommates and even a partner… and live empty.
Since loneliness is not only the state of aloneness but a state of not being heard, not being seen and not being understood.
And how can that feeling be? It’s real. It does not need to break you though.
Why We are Afraid of Aloneness :
Since a tender age, we are assured that other people are what makes us happy friends, family, likes, love.
Whenever it happens that we sleep and wake up alone, we, therefore, doubt our value.
We think:
Is this wrong with me?
Why do you not pay any attention to me?
All the other people appear to be happy. Why me not?
But the fact is: Lonely is part of life.
It comes to all of us, even to those who apparently are the most popular, loved and satisfied.
Learning to Live with Loneliness, but not Being Full of Loneliness
1. Do not call yourself broken
This does not make you a failure because you feel lonely.
It does not imply lack of lovability, attractiveness or any other worth.
All it entails is that your heart wants to connect.
And that is a strength not a weakness.
2. Don t Be with Yourself Distracted
Do not run out of the silence, sit with it.
Make a walk alone. Journal. Have music without a screen to listen to.
Ask yourself:
what am I experiencing now?
and, what do I still really enjoy--not having to do it with someone around?
Solitude has a lot to offer by way of clarity, surprise.
3. Produce, not Merely Consume
Overconsumption, be it social media, TV, or comparing, are often to blame of loneliness.
However, when you create, you are in touch with yourself.
Draw. Write. Cook. Dance. Build something.
Make your loneliness a canvas and not a cage.
4. Reconstruct The Meaning Of ‘Alone’
It is not necessary to feel lonely.
Other times it signifies the freedom. Peace. The room to breathe.
Other than thinking:
Off. Alone, all alone.
try:
I am with me and I am learning to be happy with that”
5. REACH OUT WITHOUT SHAME
There is always nothing wrong with giving the fact that you are lonely.
Give a friend a text. Enter a space of a new idea. Encourage a person to talk, not because you are weak but strong enough to be truthful.
The connection between human beings is not based on faking it.
It is due to being genuine.
You Are Not the Only one who Feels Lonely
What is the most comforting fact?
It is felt by everyone. Including some who are never going to acknowledge it.
It is the response that makes a difference.
Will you despise yourself because you are lonely ? -- or will you be friendly to yourself?
Last Thoughts :
It is not broke because you are not with someone.
You are being transformed - gentler, wiser, closer in touch with what you really are.
Don t keep loneliness at the door next time it comes knocking at your door.
Seat yourself with it. Chatter to it.
And gradually, you will come to know that it is not your company you must avoid at all cost -
It is something to be proud of.
📅 By News Anek Digital Desk | July 15, 2025
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